I’M NOT READY TO BE A MOMWellofexcellence | April 25, 2018 | 4 | Feminine Forum
I’m ready to have beautiful kids that are products of me and my soul mate.
I’m ready to go on photo sessions with my kids and post pictures on Instagram.
I’m ready for the joy and pride that comes with motherhood.
But I don’t think I’m ready to be a mom.
I’m not ready to take up the office of a mother and oversee the lives of children.
I’m not ready to handle lives and groom them until they become all that God wants them to be.
I’m not ready to sacrifice my sleep praying for my kids, I mean, I’m not even perfect at doing that for myself yet.
I’m not ready to find everything that is lost in the house; I do not have that “super power” moms have to magically find the lost shoe, belt, top, and trouser.
I’m not ready to stop midway through my meal to clean up a baby’s excreta.
I’m not ready to be patient with kids who will not cut me some slack when I just want my alone time.
I’m not ready to work every week day and multiple times weekends.
I’m not ready to comfortably cushion every child’s struggles and proffer solutions.
I’m not ready to ensure all my kids have the right company and are not being influenced by peers.
I’m not ready to comfortably educate a child or a teenager on sex.
I’m not ready to be a mom and sometimes a dad when my husband is away.
I’m not ready.
I haven’t read enough books on motherhood yet. I don’t have all the knowledge yet.
Can it be said of me that “Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],
Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.”?
I don’t think I have all it takes. No, not yet.
These were my musings as I sat on a hill not too far from my house.
But a still small voice in my head stopped me.
“You can never be ready”
You can do your best to learn from great mothers and failed mothers also but you can never be ready.
You can read thousands of books on mothering and motherhood but you can never be ready.
You can do your best to make up issues in your head and proffer solutions just in case they came up but you can never be ready. Because no matter how “prepared” to be a mother you are, there WILL be moments that you are not prepared for.
There will be unexpected surprises
There will be situations that you won’t have a clue how to solve.
So do all you can to get knowledge and to prepare yourself for motherhood but don’t try to know everything first.
Don’t be fooled into believing the lie that you have to have everything figured out before you begin.
As you embark on the journey, you know more and become wiser.
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