UTILISING YOUR SINGLENESSWellofexcellence | June 28, 2018 | 60 | Family Life , Feminine Forum , Reflections
Being single is quite interesting and also one of the most difficult and challenging periods in life. A lot of youths have lost the purpose and benefits of being single. singleness is a period that should be enjoyed, utilized and not be wasted. As a single, you probably have more free time now than you will have in other seasons of life, there is more to do as a single as you walk through the journey of life.
Outlined here are some ways to make maximum use of your singleness.
1. Singleness is a period you can serve God whole heartedly.
It is a gift from God and a gift to offer back to God. It is an intentional gift like any other gift, it is to be stewarded and enjoyed. Singleness is a matter of trusting God that your current position in life is not accidental, it has been designed by God that man should pass through this stage. As a single, you have the utmost opportunity to serve God with all that you have.
The bible pointed it out clearly, “remember now thy creator in the days of your youth”. We must be willing to serve God sincerely in our single days before the opportunity is lost. Romans12:1 says, ” therefore I urge you brothers, in view of Gods mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God- this is your spiritual act of worship. Our bodies are the temple of Christ and therefore as workers in his own vineyard, we must offer our bodies back to God, holy and pleasing unto him.
2. Singleness is a period to work on our attitude.
Attitude is a state of mind which depends on our actions in life.. Character is as a result of two things: our attitude and the way we spend our time, life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
Everyone on earth has an attitude that must be adjusted as a human, we all need to discipline ourselves towards having a positive attitude. Your single days is an opportunity to discover ur negative attitude and work towards becoming a better person that you should be. Employing a positive attitude makes you achieve certain goals. Bad attitude could be lack of punctuality, procrastination, pride, dishonesty etc. You are in the right time to work on your attitude and build yourself up. Attitude is Altitude.
3. Make and improve meaningful relationships.
As a single you have the ample opportunity to make friends that are successful and better than you so you can learn from them. It is said that bad company corrupts good morals, the kind of company you keep to a great extent defines you. It is also important that you have a successful person as a mentor to guide you through life’s journey. Your mentors life should encourage you towards building yourself and making u a better person that you are meant to be.
4. Reading books
Reading is a very powerful tool that can change ones life. Reading books makes you have vast knowledge and ideas, it exposes you to new things you never knew. There are lots of secrets hidden in books and till we open, read and digest them before we can have ideas about them. Cultivating a good reading habit will improves your IQ and also helps you develop yourself academically, socially and otherwise.
“The more that you read, the more you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” — Dr. Seuss
5. Always be optimistic
An optimist sees an opportunity in every difficulty while a pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity that comes by. You must learn to be a positive minded person in other to make it in life. Never make excuses for not being able to do or achieve something. Failure is never an excuse, when u fall u try again, always use the word “I can do it” and not “I can’t do it”. Dare to make a difference.
6. Develop a good self esteem
A lot of youths have lost their self esteem by feeling inferior and having a negative mindset. There are lots of young people with deposits and ideas in them that can impact the world but have all lost it due to inferiority complex. You must have faith and confidence in yourself in order to do great things and Explore, you should also develop courage and have faith in who you are, what you are and what you can do to impact.
7. Discover your talents and gift
Every individual on earth was born with a particular talent or gift and God gave talents and gifts to be used for the glory and honour of his name. Some people discovered their gift right from childhood and are doing great, well its not too late for you to discover your gifts and talents.
A talent is an ability or skill that you find so easy to do without much stress. Could it be singing, dancing, writing, painting, counseling etc, discover your talents and do exploit. Appreciate being single because thats when you grow the most and with that growth, you come to know what you are looking for.
8. Get engaged with activities that gets you busy and improves you.
It is said that an idle man is the devils workshop. One of the reasons why the devil is so much interested in singles is because they have a lot of deposit in them, the easiest medium through which he can destroy the world completely. Its important that you don’t lazy around but get engaged in activities that improves your life. You visit orphanages, attend seminars, entrepreneurial training, sports etc. Being occupied with some activities gets you busy and to an extent your mind deviates thereby making you unavailable for the devil.
9. Set goals
You should learn to purvey and set goals ahead of time. Your goal could be that you want to achieve a certain grade academically, you should be able to plan a reading timetable for yourself and be consistent without procrastinating so you can achieve your academic target. A lot of people are not necessarily lazy but they find it hard to put their plans on paper and set goals. A plan not written is not executed but that does not mean every written plan guarantees execution. You should be able to plan and set goals, and also work towards achieving them.
10. Accept and enjoy your uniqueness.
Every individual was created differently and in a unique way. You must never compare yourself to anyone because no is you and everyone’s race is different. No one is better than you, and you are not better than anyone. You must accept yourself and who you are in order to fulfill ur God given potential.
In conclusion, you should learn to be yourself and be able to utilize your time and every opportunity that comes.
By Victoria I. Musa
Well of Excellence’s secretary
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